The Vow, lightish

If you read the last post, you may have identified with difficulties identifying what you’re passionate about and following you’re heart particularly when things look a bit uncertain. Personally I think worrying about others opinions of what we’re doing and how and when we’re doing it, pressure to reach standards set by those around us and even pressure to meet societal expectations coupled with low self-esteem, lack of courage and a pervasive risk averse attitude mean many of us live with a constant sense of dissatisfaction with ourselves and a desire to change. For the New Year I’m hoping to engage in operation self –respect instead of operation transformation, I’m not so bad I don’t need to be transformed, although perhaps some of my habits do!

It’s funny I mentioned in the last post that I was a creative imaginative child who liked arty stuff, but that I had crossed over to a more scientific path. I saw the movie The Vow last year, major eye candy alert, Channing Tatum for some and Rachel Mac Adams for others. I was close to tears in the cinema, not when they were in the accident or during any of the typical heart wrenching bits, but at the dawning realisation that maybe I would end up like the female lead, abandoning her dependable career and education, I think she was on route to be a lawyer, and opting to be a sculptor in a dingy studio. I was terrified that this was my true destiny and as a result I would never find true happiness until I was a “starving artist” or perhaps married to Channing Tatum!

On a more serious note , Bronnie Ware a palliative care nurse researched and wrote about the top 5 regrets of the dying,  One of the top 5 things the patients said was :
I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me
This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people have had not honored even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

http://www.inspirationandchai.com/Regrets-of-the-Dying.html